Are you in a place to help your kids, siblings, or friends? What if you want to help your parents financially? How do you give money to loved ones? This is when things get dicey. This is not an easy subject to think about. But you will likely face it at some point during your life. So in this episode of Best in Wealth, I cover four things you NEED to consider before giving money to loved ones.
Outline of This Episode
- [1:01] How do you want to be remembered?
- [3:02] How to give money to your loved ones
- [4:22] Question #1: Does your financial plan allow you to give?
- [5:59] Question #2: What is the money for?
- [7:28] Question #3: Is there another alternative?
- [9:57] Question #4: How can you set boundaries?
- [13:53] The money conversation is never easy—but it is important
Question #1: Does your financial plan allow you to help others monetarily?
Does your monthly cash flow allow you to give money away? Is someone’s need more than your monthly cash flow will allow? To give away money, do you need to save for 3–6 months first? You must remember that you cannot sacrifice yourself—and your family—for someone else.
Does your long-term plan allow you to give out money to a loved one who is in need? If you do not plan for these things but give your money away, you may be the one asking for money down the road. It helps no one.
Takeaway: Create a financial plan that addresses short-term and long-term giving.
Question #2: What is the money for?
If someone is asking you for money, you are allowed to ask what the money is for. If a parent or child needs money, make sure the reason adds up. Is it to pay off debt? Is it a one-time bill? Recurring bills? Did they lose a job? Is it gambling or drug addiction?
Takeaway: This conversation is not easy, but it is your right.
Question #3: Is there another alternative?
Why would you want to seek out other alternatives? Maybe they can handle the financial problem on their own. Maybe you can help them create a spending plan and empower them to pay off their own debt/bills. Throughout my life, I have donated time to the church to help folks who are in debt. I have taught Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University for many years. I take on pro bono cases on occasion to help people get out of debt.
Takeaway: Many people can tackle their debt head-on with the right help.
Why else do you want to look for an alternative? Listen to hear another reason!
Question #4: How can you set boundaries?
It is not a good idea to give loans to loved ones. Whatever you do should be a gift. Why? What if they cannot pay you back? What if they do not pay you back? What if you see them making poor decisions with the money? It will damage the relationship and that is not worth the risk.
If the loved one needs recurring money—and it is not a one-time gift—figure out what you can afford to give regularly (that your spouse agrees with). This will protect your short and long-term plan. And your loved one knows what they are getting. It prevents your loved one from coming back to you to ask for more.What other boundaries do I recommend you set? When is it okay to say no? Listen to the whole episode to learn more!
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